I came across a link to this article on Twitter earlier today and just had to share it here: “Thirty Things I’ve Learned,” by writer Nick Crocker. I’m wrapping up Year 30 in just a few weeks (and turning 31 somehow feels a lot different than turning 30 did), so reading this felt especially meaningful, and I could relate in some way to every single thing on the list. You really should read it.
Also, here are the top three things I learned during my 20s and in Year 30 (some of which Crocker reiterates in his own list); thanks for indulging me in sharing these–clearly learning to count was not one of them:
Be kind. Above everything else, it is most important to be kind to people. I was reminded of this a few weeks ago and I’ve been trying to repeat it to myself at some point every day. You will never be criticized for being too kind. And here’s a little tip: If you’re having a not-so-great day, doing something kind for someone else will make you feel much better. Giving into the negativity, it turns out, is only fleetingly satisfying.
You can’t change other people. You just cannot. No matter how much you love them or push them, the other person is the one who has to want to change. You can’t do it for them.
Ask for what you want. This is really hard for me (I’m naturally a bit of a shrinking violet), but when I do I am always happy about the outcome. The most significant example of this is asking my former boss to hire me back–there was no job open at our company at the time; I just asked for what I wanted and I got it. Three years later, I can honestly say that putting myself out there was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life.
I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day. Thank you so much for reading.