So over the weekend I had a transformative experience that I thought I’d share here. And it has to do with underwear.
Back story: I found out at noon on Saturday that I had to go to a black-tie event for work that same night, and while I know the phrase “I had nothing to wear” is way overused and–in my case, at least–usually untrue, in this instance I literally had nothing in my closet that was black-tie appropriate. Afternoon-wedding-appropriate? Sure. Cocktail-party-appropriate? Yup. But appropriate for a drinks-dinner-dancing affair at Sarasota’s beautiful Selby Botanical Gardens? Nope. So off to the mall I went, and I ended up with this gorgeous coral floor-length, three-quarter-sleeve dress with slits on both sides of the skirt that totally gives off that ’70s boho-chic vibe I’m into right now. I knew it would look great with gold jewelry and a pair of heels I already owned; the only thing that made me hesitate was that it’s very low-cut. Way lower than I like to go, in fact, especially since I am pretty busty.
So after hemming and hawing and making ACS safety-pin me seven ways to Sunday to no avail (all the while listening to me whine about my lack of appropriate bras/undergarments), I finally decided to suck it up and go buy a decent bra at a specialty lingerie shop. I had enough time before the event, and I figured it would be worth it in the long run–and a much more personal and comfortable experience than going into a department store and randomly trying on bras until I found one that sort of fit. (Actually, ACS was the one who urged me to do this, and I’m so glad he did.)
So off I went to Sea Cup and Up, which not only carries impeccably made undergarments in a huge range of sizes, but which is run by a lovely woman named Cheryl who’s incredibly knowledgeable about all of them and knows exactly how to provide the perfect fit. I’ll spare you the details, but suffice it to say that my bra size has always been an issue for me–it’s hard to find shirts that fit 100 percent correctly, especially button-ups. Being fitted at Sea Cup and Up is the first time I’ve ever felt truly comfortable in my underthings; I could see the difference it made in my clothes as soon as I hooked the last clasp on the bra. And for me, it’s a confidence thing, too: A good bra gives me better posture, helps my clothes lay better, as mentioned, and just generally feels better since the band sits where it’s supposed to and the straps don’t dig into my shoulders.
(Side note: A good bra is also not inexpensive, and I should tell you that I spent more money on my undergarments than I did on my dress. But because they made such a dramatic difference in how I felt and how my dress looked–here’s a terrible selfie–and because the cost per wear is going to be so low, I didn’t mind.)
And also, in this specific instance, Cheryl and her team expended some serious effort to help me find a bra and a cami that perfectly went with my dress. When I tried on the pieces I ended up buying with the gown, I almost cried. It was such a happy experience, and one that I encourage anyone–no matter your bra size–to have.
How important do you think your underthings are to your wardrobe and your overall sense of confidence? I’d love to know.