It’s probably been pretty clear in recent posts that there’s been a strong current of overwhelm running through my life for the past few weeks, although actually it probably started this summer with my brother’s wedding (which, although lovely and in the most beautiful place I’ve ever been, was pretty stressful for me and my family). Things were fine until my grandmother passed away in November, and then all of the sudden life seemed to explode again with the holidays, ACS’ new job and his move to Sarasota, having to find a new place to live, and everything that comes with moving (setting up utilities, transferring existing services, etc.). I’m not any more busy than anyone else (nor am I trying to say that I am), but all of the sudden my stress level is through the roof.
I’m not even sure why it’s so high, because everything that’s going on is good stuff. I mean, it’s Christmas! I love Christmas. And ACS got a job here, which is something we’d been talking about/hoping for for almost a year. Our house is going to be awesome. I’m basically 90 percent packed, which is huge for me. And my friends and family are being 100 percent supportive and loving and helpful–particularly the two who helped me pack all day on Sunday. So, as my therapist and I were discussing yesterday*, all of this is completely self-imposed. But why? I’m naturally high-strung by nature, sure–I jokingly likened myself to a cocker spaniel the other day–but this is a bit ridiculous. I don’t want to feel this crazed.
So I guess what I’m asking you all is how you deal with life when it feels completely overwhelming, and how you take some of the pressure off yourselves? For me, deep breaths and writing down my worries help a lot (when I take the time to do it). Making lists of tasks does, too. And on nights when I don’t have after-work events, I’ve been trying to relax at home with the cats. But what do you guys do? I’m totally confident that once the move is over and we’re settled in our new house, I’ll be back to my normal self. Until then, though, tips welcome!
*Yes, I see a therapist, and it’s some of the best money I spend all month. Happy to talk more about my decision to start and why it’s so helpful in another post if you guys would like.
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